CLARITY OF PURPOSE

Intermission: Kanina sa mall nakita ko Mommy Fleur. Nakakahiya feeling ko talaga, kilala ko silang lahat. Hahaha! I guess when you read someone's blog you really get that feeling that you know the blogger. So when she introduced me to Alvin,  I was like, "Oo si Alvin, I read about him sa blog."

Face Palm.

Anyway, going back to my real story.

I was having a serious discussion with my husband regarding his business goals. I told him that he shouldn't start with a number. The desire for wealth is insatiable. It will never be enough.

Instead, I told him to start by envisioning a way of life.

If we are a long way from his dream, then we adjust our lives and  we work hard to get there. Perhaps, we should even consider making sacrifices. However, if he is contended with where we are now, he should stop wishing for material things and spend more time appreciating what we have.

We are not rich. We are not powerful. We are simple people. 

My husband's first impression is that I am not impressed with what we have. On the contrary, I feel blessed. We don't have an empire like most Fil-Chi tycoons, but we have a home, good health and food on our table. To me, that's enough. 

However, when I hear him say "I want this and I wish to be this", then my logical mind points out to him that we are here and we have to change the way we do things to get there.

I love that my husband is very hard working and very driven. But sometimes, I feel that his goals are so numeric. 

A life goal should be the quality of life that one wants and business or work are means to achieve it.

If one wants to spend more time with family, one may not need to have a big corporation.

If one wants a big corporation, one may not have time for the family.

I'm a sucker for clarity of purpose.  And when I see my husband work so hard, I can't help but ask him "what's his goal" because I don't want him to strike here, there everywhere.

What about me? What's my goal in life? Right now, my goal is to support my husband on his goal. I don't have my own goals now, to be honest.

Don't get me wrong, I do have my desired way of life but at this point, they are all very selfish. I want to be back in Singapore. I want to live in River Valley. I want to be with my friends. I want to live out of my suitcase. I want to be a gold flyer elite. I want to be stressed. That was my old life and if I'm not with S, I'd still be living it.

But I fell in love. Now, my husband comes before what I want. And because I love my husband, I'm here and happily doing my chores...in uniform.

And you know what, I'm still happy.

 We have our own little home. I eat well. I  sleep good. I occasionally get nice things....  

I realize, I need so little in life to be happy.

Goals change...but even if they change, they're not numeric.

However, I told him (and at this point, the conversation got tough) if he if feels that his goals are not yet crystal clear to him...then he should allow me to pursue mine while he finds his.

Before I asked him this question about life, his goals were all in numerics. But, I am not driven by $$$. It's  a way of life that I want.  Sadly, my dream lifestyle is pretty much that of George Clooney's character in the movie "Up in the Air".

While it was a tough discussion to have, I am happy that I was able to talk to S about it.  That surely made him think.

How about you, what are your life goals?

Yoda,

L