Ever since my parents attended a CEFAM workshop with Sister Harriet, they have been very open to involving professionals in resolving conflicts within the family and within ourselves.
So, I got married with no hidden emotional and mental baggage.
I am able to talk about my past and my demons with honesty. I don't fear judgement because I am secure of the sources of my feelings.
For instance, when I am angry I am able to explain the role of my past experiences in causing my outburst. When I have fears, I can discuss my feelings in details. I can also go to my parents and cry to them and I have an established support group.
In short, I know how to deal with it.
However, marriage is a totally different animal.