A man who goes home to a happy home is a man ready to face the world.
There is truth to the saying, "HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE"... especially if that wife is me.
I have a very infectious energy. If I am happy, the entire house or office is happy. I am the type who will organize parties, initiate activities, fuel conversations and anything related to skillful hosting
However, if I am sad...all the curtains are closed and the house is dark. I lose my appetite and no appetite means no cooking. I don't talk. I don't have energy to meet people. The best part is, I bring everyone with me down. I am just a bundle of gloom.
When I am sad, my husband is the one most affected. He feeds on my joy and happiness just like a leech feeds on blood.
Last Sunday, I had a chat with my mother-in-law and she asked about our plans when the little human arrives.
By the sound of it, she seemed really concerned about the impact of the changes on my husband's life.
If he stays up all night, will he be able to do business properly. If I am stressed maybe we will fight and my husband will be cranky at work.
My husband plans to stay home with the child for 30 days during my ge lai so that I can stay true to the objective of CONFINEMENT. But my MIL is concerned that he will miss work for 30 days.
I understand her sentiments because he is her son after all. Of course, she is inclined to be more concerned about his welfare. Now, don't get me wrong, my MIL is a very kind and understanding woman. She is a good mother and she loves her son very much.
However, let me be honest with you that the conversation made me feel that no one cares about me. I am the one who will give birth. And I am giving my husband a child...a child that he asked for because he has no uterus to make one.
My husband explained that during our parents' time, the man is not hands-on. Nowadays, an un-involved father is not macho or cool.
I'm happy I have a very supportive and loving husband but I don't these type of sentiments make me sad.
I am not angry at what was said because I understand.
I am sad because I know this is human nature and hence can't be easily changed.
My in-laws need to understand the dynamics between me and my husband. My husband is very dependent on me for energy. I am dependent on my husband for logic. I am the heart and he is the brains in our home.
If a person's heart is heavy, the mind can't work objectively and worst, the rest of the body succumbs to weakness.
I can maintain the cleanest and the most efficient home, but if I'm not happy, I'm 100% sure my husband will be lost.
Thinking out loud,