A couple of years ago, I bumped into a good friend when I was in our HR building. We worked together in Singapore for quite sometime.
He said, "Friend! Nako wish me luck! I'm finally coming out to mama and papa."
That came quite as a surprise to me because he was almost 34 years old at that time and he has been living with his partner in Singapore for close to 3 years na! Infact, I was even planning to rent a room in their HDB flat.
Didn't his parents notice that he is gay? As in no clue ever?
My gut tells me that his parents knew all along but they were just in denial and they refuse to acknowledge it.
There are those who are brave enough naman to come out to their parents early. Some 20s palang.
The initial reaction of most moms is to cry. Dads usually keep mum.
The next is to ask, "Are you sure? Maybe it's just a phase."
Then parents go through denial by asking their gays sons or daughters to "meet" someone over for coffee...
In short, Kai-shao. Hehe...
I wonder if parents genuinely understand that being gay is not a matter of choice. A lesbian will not turn straight if she meets a handsome and caring man.
But, I do know of a lesbian Fil-Chi girl who got married to make her parents happy. Now, she is processing her annulment. Hassle! Annulments can take years! Kawawa naman asawa nya.
If it's hard for a Filipino-Chinese to be in a relationship with a Filipino...imagine how hard it is for gays to come out to their Fil-Chi family and relatives.
More often than not, even if you do come out to your parents, the family will keep quiet about it. Chances are you wont really get to discuss your relationship very openly with your parents.
I wonder if parents feel that if they don't talk about it...it will just go away.
My message to parents: IT WONT GO AWAY. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY.
Thankfully there are families who are minded and who accept their children for who they are and welcome their partners into the family.
My friend is one of the lucky few. His parents didn't go hysterical. Perhaps, they were just waiting for him to come out.
Fast forward to today. He just posted in Instagram a picture of him and his partner having breakfast with his mom.
I was actually planning to have the baby baptized in Iloilo but our yaya told me that the baby can't travel across waters if she has not been blessed.
So, we organized a baptism with only 25 guests. We just invited our immediate family and a few friends to share the day with us.
It was a simple yet very special day.
I couldn't help but cry when I shared why the second name of our daughter is Samuelle. I read Samuel chapter 1 to our guests. It's the story of Hannah and how sad she was when she couldn't conceive.
I really wanted to take that opportunity to talk about the Lord even if sometimes He makes life difficult. I would like to believe that He is still a kind and merciful God and I hold on to that hope everyday, now that I am a mother.
My husband said, "Today, is the day we offer our daughter to the Lord. From this day onwards, she belongs to Him and we humbly ask for His protection."
We were filled with emotions and had to cut our speech short because I didn't want to bawl. Sayang ang make-up! Hehehe.
Here are few pictures from Baby G's Baptism.
The buffet table by Bizu.
The dessert table by Bizu.
The super gorgeous cake by Annlee's Kitchen. Calligraphy topper by Cher Cabula.
Our venue and tables by Bizu.
It was a simple event but I loved the small details like the pink napkins, the pink wine, the Macarons and even the pink juice!
Obvious ba that loyal ako sa Bizu? They catered our wedding and my baby shower too.