Thursday, 26 June 2014
Wednesday, 25 June 2014
Her dad will comb her hair and her mother and relatives will recite the auspicious chant. In some Chinese countries, the combing is done by what they call a "good luck woman".
Finally, I completed all the things I need for my hair combing ceremony. But I needed to make certain modifications since some items are not readily available here.
My bridesmaid , Alvee, got our Lao Gong ( Granpa) and Lao Po (Grand Ma) slippers in Singapore and will bring it with her when she arrives a couple of days before my wedding.
Those are alvee's feet. Hahaha
Here's my complete set. The items below are actually part of my KE TSENG or my dowry.
I have there my new pajamas, my combs, my mirror, my candles, my ruler and scissors.
S and I even have a new set of rinsing mug and toothbrush!
The ruler is one of the modified elements. The ruler represents GOOD JUDGEMENT. There is actually a Chinese version which is not available here... So I just have to make do with an ordinary red ruler with a sang hee sticker.
Everything that I will use during the ceremony needs to be new. This is symbolic of the start of my new life. Syempre may new SOEN panties and New Marks and Spencer Bra din.
Since my mom can't speak Chinese, I got her the English translation of the chant.
I wonder if there are any Pinoy wedding eve traditions too...
Still on Pause,
Tuesday, 24 June 2014
I had the worst insomnia attacks when I was growing up. Before an exam, I swear I could see equations the moment I close my eyes. It was horrible.
It also didn't help that we had stupid roosters in our house in Iloilo. The stupid roosters would start crowing at 3 am!!!
I have tried praying, crying, counting sheeps, you name it. The worst attack I had was in UP diliman during the night before my calculus exams. I literally watched the sun rose before my very eyes.
As a former insomniac, I've tried several over the counter sleeping aids so I wanted to see the effect of this new potion I saw in S&R. I am planning to sedate myself on the night before my wedding...I really want to sleep and I'm pretty sure I will not be able too.
There are sleeping aids that hit you first on the parietal lobe. The effect makes your head almost fall back. There are those that hit your cheeks first to the point that you feel like falling flat on your face. Then there are heavy ones that hit you on the legs first and you almost can't walk.
The effect of Zzzquil started on my cheeks. I felt that I wanted to bury my face in my pillow. However, the bad thing with sleeping aids is...while you may be physically feel sleepy, your thoughts could still be run riot. This is the agonizing part: your strong consciousness battling your physical weakness.
This went on for a good hour before I finally succumbed to sleep.
I slept for a good 11 hrs and woke up very groggy. I could barely open my eyes.
Still on Pause,
Monday, 23 June 2014
Sunday, 22 June 2014
This 7 year old girl can speak fluent fookien and even mandarin.
Wow! I'm impressed ( and honestly, I was quite envious) that she could converse with my MIL with such command of the language.
Oh, she's from China but still, it's amazing!
I feel the same way when I hear kids in Paris speaking fluent French.
Despite the fact that S chose Century because they are famous for their CHINESE FOOD, the most amazing meal we had that day was from Tapa King, which we had later that evening.
Eh I don't know how to blog about food e! That and I'm too lazy to write today.
I recommend you visit Tsinoyfoodies.com for more credible food reviews.
Anyway, our 12 course lauriat or "pan-to" started with...
1. Hot appetizer
Saturday, 21 June 2014
He later made me watch several episodes of COSMOS and I swear I felt a bit smarter right about the 5th episode. By the 9th episode I decided to get the first book of Zecharia Sitchen.
Thursday, 19 June 2014
Wednesday, 18 June 2014
Tuesday, 17 June 2014
Monday, 16 June 2014
Thursday, 12 June 2014
He is just like my dad. He is very generous in giving me clothes, bags, food and even medicine to the point that I sometimes feel like a charity case. Minsan tuloy feeling ko para akong taong grasa na pinulot lang sa kalye!
I, on the other hand, am very KURIPOT. Sabi ng nanay ko baka daw effect yan na struggling ang business ni papa nung buntis sya sa akin. His business wasn't doing too well when my mom was preggers with me.
It also doesn't help that I worked in marketing in an FMCG company for 10 years. That has made me skeptical about brands. Do you know that companies selling liquid soaps can earn a minimum of 60% in profit per bottle! Imagine if you buy luxury brands. I read somewhere that LV bags can earn up to 800% in profit!
The problem is when S shows me love by spending on me, he expects that I will show him love in the same way. And so he feels bad when I only buy him generic medicines even if my cousin, who is a pharmacist, explained to him that there is no difference in formulation and efficacy.
Except for my periods of insanity, I rarely buy expensive items on impulse. When I see something I like, I ask myself the following questions: (I think you should do this too!)
Wednesday, 11 June 2014
Read about my first visit by clicking on this link!
Today, I noticed that within a month, the price increased by 30% A couple of weeks before that another item also had a price increase. And we are not talking about a few pesos here.
I was shocked! It seems that the prices in this restaurant vary nearly every week!
So, I talked to the waitress and told her that this is very unusual. The owner overheard and approached me.
Tuesday, 10 June 2014
Monday, 9 June 2014
In most Chinese literature, she is usually the cause of the young bride's misery. She throws in nasty criticisms on just about everything from her cooking to her parenting style.
The mother-in-law, popo in mandarin, is usually tough and controlling. Due to traditional family relationships and due to the fact that she is the current matriarch of ther household, she holds higher authority over everyone and of course, over her daughter-in-law.
In most traditional chinese families, the bride moves in with the groom and his family. This is especially true if he is the eldest and/or the only son.
Given the anticipated difficulty, the KE TSENG list includes a pair of shoes and stockings for the mother-in-law. This is very symbolic. This is a sign of respect. This represents a peace offering before war even starts.
This is the traditional style:
This is what I got my future mother-in-law:
Sunday, 8 June 2014
It has been quite a difficult week for me as I battled with my emotions: excitement, fear, sadness and extreme nostalgia. I had this brilliant idea to do our own "growing up" video for the wedding because I had the story in my mind and the skill to execute it.
Well, it turned out to be a very bad idea.
In fact I nearly fell into depression as I was reminded of my once amazing and busy life. I've travelled. I've had my own home. I've had freedom. I asked myself, "So, now what? What else do I have to look forward to?"
My friends told me to look forward to building a family with S but my demons told me to not get my hopes up because I may not have kids. Then I reminded myself that I have always just wanted to grow old with S but my demons won't shut up. They asked me, "What if you outlive S?"
Such evil thoughts...
Oh it was just horrible, I tell you! I'm sure you must think I'm a psycho who can hear demons. Demons make themselves felt through our fears.
It is so hard to give up the FANTASTIC NOW in favor of the UNCERTAIN FUTURE.
(more to this story)
Friday, 6 June 2014
Wednesday, 4 June 2014
50,000 nett income house hold
Only 2 people living in the house
1. Open 2 Accounts and NEVER mix
2. Upon receiving salary, deposit 20% to savings (ex: 50,000 salary=10,000 savings)
Note: If 2 people are working, make sure that EACH SPOUSE deposits to the 2 accounts
3. Make Budget Expense Projection. Ideally constant from January-November.
December, by all means, go wild.
- Rent/Amortization- MUST NOT EXCEED 30% of Income
- Weekend Gimmicks
- Church Donations/Tithes/Charity
- FAMILY OBLIGATION---- PLEASE INCLUDE IN MONTHLY EXPENSE
- (tip if you want you can open another account just for this. you can deposit even if they don't ask. Atleast when they do ask, and trust me, they will, you have something ready)
4. Set Aside a FUN FUND for the spouse not working/ Or a COMMON FUND if both are working
1. Yes, you can have 2,000 pesos in utilities both elec and water, provided that you only have 2-3 hrs of aircon a night.
2. And yes 1,000 per weekend is possible. One Movie Night, 500 pesos and 1 Dinner for 2
3. BEST TO LOWER RENT, ideally down to 20%
Now, I'm thinking...Imagine a 5 Pax HH with kids going to school and needing tuition and allowance.
So, are you ready to get married?
Still on Pause,